Beginning with her own experience of trying to become pregnant, author and counselor Murphy offers therapeutic steps and exercises to bolster the hopes of other women who must overcome fears and doubts in order to achieve their goal. The author’s recollections include the rather cold manner in which women may be treated as they struggle with such pathways as in vitro fertilization (IVF) or simply dreading the time each month when their menstrual cycle tamps down their dreams. Such scenarios are discouraging, but by following Murphy’s advice, acceptance can arise, understanding can result, and success can be achieved.

The author urges readers to deeply examine their personal histories and feelings regarding pregnancy from the first time they heard the word. Delving into one’s past involves the “As” and “Bs” surrounding the concept and reality of infertility: abandonment, abuse, adoption, abortion, betrayal, bitterness, and bereavement. Once embedded in one’s psychological framework, all of these can affect one’s ability to conceive a child. These clues, along with many physical exercises such as breathing, positive envisioning, hugging, and yoga, can assist in re-empowering those who use Murphy’s methods to discover their innate strengths.

Murphy, who has assisted many clients with her outreach as an "Elite Inspirational Coach," writes with verve and basic common sense about this emotionally charged subject matter, revealing a genuine empathy for those grappling with the issues she arrays here. These topics require a daring yet sensitive approach that the author amply demonstrates. With bulleted exercises on nearly every page, case histories, and advice that extends through the entire process of conception, pregnancy, and childbirth, Murphy offers readers a thorough guide that can also help them consider other dilemmas that they may face as they examine their past experiences with an eye to the future.

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