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I (Think) I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants to End Your Marriage
by Becky Whetstone, PhD
Health Communications, Inc
Writer and therapist Whetstone offers a wide range of helpful constructs surrounding the decisions of married couples to separate and divorce. Using her personal experience of counseling those enmeshed in that distressing set of circumstances, Whetstone defines married pairs as Deciding and Leaning In partners. The Deciders will announce that they want to separate, sometimes with little or no previous indication of marital stress. The Leaning In partners may be surprised, even traumatized, by the sudden change and all it implies. They might take on the role of detectives to uncover the Deciders' possible infidelities and other destructive behaviors. Typically, losses, such as those of mutual friends and supportive in-laws, will occur. Potential financial burdens are inevitable but may be averted through collaborative approaches to legal issues.
This assiduously researched and organized guide offers serious advice regarding all phases of the emotionally burdening and pragmatically threatening factors involved in separation and divorce processes, as well as particular points often not openly and frankly discussed. These latter may include the essential need to help one’s offspring understand the dynamics of the relationship collapse and the efforts of each participant to build a fresh, positive atmosphere.
Whetstone, a journalist who has long pursued these salient issues at a professional level, holds a PhD and works as a marriage crisis counselor. Throughout this well-considered treatise, she emphasizes a detailed human-scale viewpoint and society’s failures to offer pragmatic policies and assistance to those challenged by potential separation and divorce. Readers can utilize opportunities for self-questioning and personal journaling as they gain a stronger grasp on the possibilities embedded in the complex dynamics of the concerns examined. Whetstone contributes relevant information sources and vivid case studies designed to move and motivate those facing these distressing life crises.
RECOMMENDED by the US Review