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The generic declaration, “relationships are complex,” seems like a gross understatement. In today’s high-tech work, a relationship may even seem like uncharted territory. Reliance on devices can create more disconnection and underdeveloped social skills. Most romantic relationships experience challenges, but with an overwhelming volume of information, it can be difficult for couples to find a source to get guidance. All this makes Smith’s book a refreshing option. In ten chapters, he breaks intimate partnerships down into their most essential components. Far from oversimplifying or passing off tired slogans as tools, he presents concrete strategies for healing. He has eloquently concentrated a wealth of principles, stories, and models into this short book.
The author’s approach is open and honest. He invites couples to have the courage to dig deeper and be truthful with their partners and themselves. Compassion is the key companion to courage for progressing through the conversations. He returns to communication as critical for any of the strategies to work. Smith structured the book to be easily digested by audiences of any background and education level. It begins with an introduction to the key principle by precisely defining it. He then describes why this skill is important to relationships and how its absence is detrimental. To aid readers, he provides examples from real couples that explain how to apply the strategies.
Smith's writing style is optimal for the topic and audience. While keeping it high-level and intellectual, he infuses it with compassion and humor. He connects with the readers by sharing his story with them. Particularly interesting is how helping others have healthy relationships is a life passion for him. This book is excellent for anyone who wants to improve communication with their partner or heal from a previous experience that was painful.