"Connection is an internal emotional response. It is life force. It can be the quality of a relationship between two or more people or groups."

The gamut of emotions in the spectrum of life boils down to one factor: connection. With incredible grace and poise, Dorsay uses personal anecdotes, his professional experience, and extensive research to provide a highly relatable blueprint for all individuals. Regardless of where one is in one's life journey, becoming super psyched about how they are spending one's most valuable currency, time, is of utmost priority. To this end, Dorsay delivers with pinpoint precision a route to understanding the whole individual, one lightbulb moment after another.

Dorsay examines life from the lens of fulfillment, consistently establishing the notion that appearances can be deceiving. Whether it’s social media or real life, looking happy does not mean being happy. In this work, he highlights four areas of connection that are conducive to growth: connection to the self, others, the world, and ultimately, a higher power pointing toward spirituality. In fact, the spiritual connection is so broad, it’s one that even an atheist would likely accept.

Prior to his commentary on the methods of connection, Dorsay shows that in spite of the myriad methods of connection, the world is as disconnected as ever. Without this recognition and acknowledgment, one can be successful in the material sense with wealth, gadgets, and things. However, elements of life, like hatred of one’s job and dissatisfaction in marital life, continue to spearhead the erosion of any authentic connections. For far too long, individuals meander through life, oblivious to what their needs are. Dorsay cites Ferris Bueller’s “life moves pretty fast” to show the fleeting nature of time. For all intents and purposes, Dorsay’s guide is nothing short of a call to action to experience the state of “super psyched” and instill the habits and structure that can put individuals in a position to thrive.

Dorsay’s penchant for anecdotes galore adds a level of color to his insights and explanations that are both wise and thoroughly entertaining. One of the more relatable examples that audiences will relish is that of Rocky and his epic fight against Apollo. Rooted deep in this discussion is Rocky’s need for others during his heroic journey, chiefly his lady love, Adriana Pennino. Similarly, the author finds inspiration in Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning and the premise that when you know the why, the how will come. As such, connections are necessary for the human condition because there is not a single individual in this universe who achieved any modicum of success or pursued his goals without help.

In this battle between connectors and disconnectors, Dorsay provides a simple mantra that focuses on filling one’s own cup: “Are these things that feed me? Or do they bleed me?” Anointed with the nickname “EnthusiAdam,” Dorsay provides a plethora of simple yet profound connecting activities, ranging from visiting a friend to getting the heart rate going through exercise. What makes this work stand out with tantamount importance is Dorsay’s ability to not just talk the talk but to walk the walk. The backstory that formed the connection between the author and his wife, Auri, with numerous near-misses—juxtaposed with his own delayed career aspirations, finding a mentor who tells him the cold hard truth to his face, and dealing with dyslexia and undiagnosed ADHD—highlights the importance of the various connections Dorsay spends the entire book unpacking. Above all else, Dorsay delivers the complete package of professional expertise, anecdotal observation, and memoir as he flawlessly executes the tenets of his blueprint, leaving the readers with an indelible impression and harnessing the potential for initiating deeper connections in all areas of life.

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