The author's happy childhood—what he calls his first lifetime—ended abruptly with the death of his father, with whom his relationship had become strained, when he was a freshman in college. What he calls his second lifetime began his sophomore year of college, included the start of his engineering career and the births of his son and daughter. It ended when his first marriage broke down. His third lifetime began when he met his second wife, Kathy, in 1997 and ended when she died of pervasive cancer nearly nineteen years later in July of 2016. His fourth lifetime, he asserts, began thirteen months after her death when his grief softened into treasured memories, and he resolved to create a world of unconditional love, including self-love. This fourth lifetime, which features coaching others in the art of unconditional self-love, continues today.

Refreshingly, Davis humbly admits his mistakes and challenges along the path to unconditional love and acceptance of self and others. He takes responsibility for his contribution to the conflict he had with his father as a teenager, admits that he was largely an absentee parent, and writes nothing uncomplimentary about his first wife, the mother of his children. He decries the racist teachings of his grandparents and his parents' intolerance of religious practices different from their own, citing those as examples of conditional love he encountered in his youth. At the same time, he refrains from cloaking his successes in false modesty. He describes his rapid advance, while a young husband and father, through the ranks of his chosen field of endeavor. He tells of frequent intercontinental travel and exposure to diverse world cultures. Those who wish to achieve self-acceptance and explore masculine sensitivity may gravitate to this insightful self-help memoir.

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