"No man is perfect; there is no such human. However, there are some men that you want to be on the lookout for."
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The World’s Top Ten Worst Men for Woman Guide by Tamara R. Neal Trafford Publishing
book review by K.R. Mecom
There are countless self-help books for women that claim to hold the secret for meeting the perfect man, but Neal's is unique. More insightful than those how-to-find-a man books, Neal outlines the types of men that all women should stay far away from. Each chapter profiles a different man, explaining how his traits can create a toxic relationship.
In the chapter, "The Intervention Man," Neal describes relationships with men who are addicts. In one example, she describes a man whom her girlfriend was dating that hid his addiction. The girlfriend later realized that she had only known the addiction and not the man. Neal tells women not to be an enabler, and even though it may be difficult, they need to extract themselves from this type of relationship.
In "Till Death Do Us Part," Neal describes the escalation of an abusive relationship. Often this type of man will be controlling at the start of the relationship, and then will become more violent as he gets more attached to a woman.
"The Prisoner in Love" focuses on men that have been or are currently in jail. Instead of advising women to just end the relationship, Neal admits that this type of relationship isn't so cut and dry. Depending on the circumstances (the man being unjustly incarcerated or being truly sorry for his crime), one might have found true love. However, one must really consider the type of crime and if they are willing to put their life on hold for someone.
Neal doesn't intend to bash all men, nor claims that all men fit into one of these ten categories. The book aims to make women aware that there are dangerous men who can do women harm, both emotionally and physically. Neal often advises women on how they can escape these types of relationships, advocating turning to family and shelters for help. Ultimately, the book is about taking responsibility for one's life and choices.